How to Wait for the Invitation: A Projector’s Strategy for Real Success
“You’re just going to wait and let someone else do the work?”
These words stung when I first heard them.
But I knew what I was doing. At least I thought I did—I was leaning into my Human Design energy type as a Projector by waiting for the right invitation into a new living situation when the one at the time was a bit of a disaster with a nightmare roommate (actually, hold the “bit of”).
And this is not to say that I wasn’t doing my part! I was hunting on StreetEasy for a new room to rent and even visited several. I was asking friends for help, and I was posting on social media regularly, since I desperately needed to get out of that situation. I was doing my best to get my voice out there to find a new place to live as soon as possible.
But these words from a work colleague, who honestly knew me very little and vice versa, got to me for a minute.
But, as someone a couple of years into my Human Design experiment, I did my best to remind myself:
What will work out best is an invitation that I feel good about. That’s how I will know it’s an aligned decision.
Because, as a Projector, my energy type’s strategy for navigating the world is to wait for the invitation. Which means first waiting for recognition and an invitation. Basically, I need to be seen and recognized to be invited to make aligned decisions for my energy.
I can’t hide away and expect to be found and invited into something. I have to shine my light and put myself out there by sharing what’s on my heart.
So, I made my situation as visible as I could…
And my Human Design Strategy paid off.
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A friend mentioned they had a friend looking for another roommate to fill out their new three-bedroom, and they had forwarded my FB post to said friend. And I waited. I waited for them to reach out, and they did. We met; I got to meet the two of them individually, and fireworks ran with each of them.
I moved in at the end of that month, and we were all able to cohabitate quite peacefully—a far cry from my previous situation.
Funny thing, I later discovered we were all non-sacral beings (two Projectors and one Reflector), so almost all of us made a point to say that sometimes we just need to be in our own energy to rest—and to not be offended if we’re not hanging out. Once I learned their Human Designs, I couldn’t help but laugh out loud at that alignment and how we were all trusting our unique designs, even unconsciously.
There’s a reason that Projectors have the “wait for an invitation” strategy. Our energy is incredibly penetrating, able to see into any situation or person. Projectors of the guides of the Human Design energy types, meant to show the world a new way of being, but the other party needs to be open to receiving it.
If we don't wait: Our energy can feel intense and off-putting, our insights fall on deaf ears, and we come across like a know-it-all, bossy-pants. We waste precious energy communicating what isn't ready to be received.
When we do wait: The other person is fully open to our insights because they have recognized what we have to offer and have given us permission to guide them.
The same goes for entering new situations, especially those that involve other people. Like moving, in this case, or employment, relationships, etc.
So… I can’t be pushy. I have to wait. And that’s been really hard to adjust to growing up as someone raised in a society where initiative, going out, and doing are practically demanded and rewarded.
(Other energy types may be in alignment to behave in these ways, but I’m not. Perhaps you can relate?)
Now I have copious proof of how focusing on improving my craft, learning about topics that excite me (like Human Design, psych!), asking when I feel like sharing or helping out rather than automatically jumping in with the assist, waiting with plenty of fun and nourishment, and sharing what’s lighting me up in the moment… And how that can’t help but lead to aligned and enriching invitations that are mutually beneficial.
So, to this seemingly affronted colleague—when I mentioned that I hoped my new living situation would be resolved through a referral from a friend—yes, I am going to wait to be invited into new things while making myself—or the situation I desire to change—as visible as possible.
Because that’s what I’m supposed to do as a Projector.
And that’s how I, personally, find success—a Projector’s signature feeling to know they are on the right track.
🔮 An Invitation Into My Creative Sandbox
As a Projector, I’ve learned that the best way to invite recognition is to simply be in my joy, hone my craft, and share what lights me up.
And I want to create that exact space for you.
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